She Used to Tell Me the Number
Your teenager comes home flat. You ask what happened and they say nothing. That can be the literal truth. Chris Coulter remembers when his daughter could name what upset her: a photo that only got forty-two likes. Today the pressure arrives in small pieces a teen can't explain. Here's why hunting for the incident backfires, and a better way to talk to your teenager about mental health.
The Mental Health Checklist I Wish I Had When Maddie Was 14
They spend more time alone. They stop talking as much. They're on their phone more. Something feels different and you can't put your finger on it. Six things a parent can do when they've noticed a change in their teenager and don't know whether it means anything, including what to ask instead of how was your day, when to bring in someone who isn't you, and what changed in one house afterwards.
I'll Be Happy When...
I checked my net worth the way other people check the weather. It was in the millions, on paper, and it wasn't pride so much as proof. Then a business failed, a marriage ended, and Maddie died. Chris Coulter on what he'd confused with his own worth, why teenagers are learning the same habit faster than we did, and the one question worth asking a fourteen-year-old instead of asking what's next.
Why "Is Everything Okay?" Gets You Nothing
My daughter told me the truest thing she ever said while we were driving home from swim practice. Nothing about that conversation was planned, and that was the point. Sitting across a desk and asking someone to be honest puts them on a stage. Teenagers read it instantly and so do employees. This is about why the check-in fails, and where real answers actually happen.
How to Navigate a Teen Mental Health Crisis Together
Worried your teenager is struggling with mental health? Learn the warning signs, the 5Rs framework, and practical ways to support your teen before a crisis escalates.
The Scariest Words a Parent Can Hear Are "I'm Fine"
Most parents accept "I'm fine" because the alternative feels harder. Chris Coulter writes about why teenagers use fine as protection, why parents let them, and what one extra question can do when you stay in the conversation a little longer than feels comfortable.
Experience Teaches. Learning Follows. Everything Else Becomes Regret.
Chris Coulter shares seven honest lessons about parenting a teenager, drawn from lived experience and regret. Written for parents who still have time to listen longer, fix less, and say what matters. A personal reflection rooted in loss and the hope that another family gets a different story.
The Question Nobody Asks
Most meaningful conversations begin after the first answer. Whether you're wondering how to get your teenager to open up or how to talk to an employee about personal struggles, the second question often changes everything. Learn why staying in the conversation a little longer can strengthen trust, improve communication, and help you notice concerns before they become bigger problems.
Five Things Losing a Child to Suicide Taught Me About Parenting
Chris Coulter lost his daughter Maddie to suicide in April 2015. She was 14. In the decade since, he has had over 2,000 conversations with parents and built The MentorWell around what teens actually need from the adults in their lives. This post shares five hard-won lessons about listening, presence, and connection — for parents who still have time to pay closer attention.