Is your teenager lazy, or is something else going on? Chris Coulter looks at six behaviours parents often mistake for laziness, from procrastinating to doing the bare minimum to dropping activities they used to love. Practical ways to respond, what may sit underneath, and how to tell when your teen's behaviour is normal and when it's a change from the kid you know.

Seven signs your teenager might be struggling, read back by the man who wrote them. The adult version of that list runs to fourteen items and the first seven are the same seven. Chris Coulter on cycling that quietly stopped, four hours of sleep for years, the explanation waiting for any man in his fifties who goes quiet, and why recognizing something and admitting it applies to you are two different things.

Your teenager is quieter. Their sleep has changed. Conversations are shorter. Every item on that list also describes a perfectly normal fifteen-year-old, which is why parents explain it away. Chris Coulter on the difference between teenage moodiness and something worth attention, the six questions that separate a bad week from a pattern, and why knowing your child's baseline matters more than knowing the warning signs.

A stranger in a Toronto pub told me he hadn't spoken to his son in almost ten years, then admitted he couldn't remember what started it. Most managers are carrying a smaller version of the same thing: a person on the team they've quietly stopped talking to properly. Nobody would take it to HR. Nobody is going to raise it either, because the person with the power in the room is you.

My daughter was beating me at a board game on a hospital day pass when something turned. She said take me back, in plain words, at fourteen. She could do that because someone had taught her the language. Most teens never get it, which is why fine and yeah is all you get. What that means if your teenager won't talk to you, and where to start before anything is wrong.

I believed my daughter would tell me if something was wrong. Not confidence. Something closer to how you believe the floor will hold. Every quiet week, every look I couldn't read, went through that filter and came back fine. Chris Coulter on why teenagers often hide more from the parents they're closest to, what that belief was really doing, and the question to ask when your teenager won't talk to you.

Every parent keeps a mental list of the kid they worry about. The kid who never causes problems isn't on it. Chris Coulter on why high achievers, helpers, and conflict-avoiders are the hardest to read, how to know when to worry about teenage behaviour that looks perfect from the outside, and four questions that help you get your teenager to open up before "fine" becomes a wall.

I was looking for silence. For withdrawal. For the obvious signs. Maddie never became that kid. She stayed funny, sharp, connected — and I missed everything underneath. What I know now is that the signal is not always what you expect. Sometimes it is the kid who is always okay.

Most kids won't say they're struggling. They'll shrug, smile, and say "I'm fine." The real signals are in what they stop doing and start hiding. This post walks through 7 subtle behavioural shifts that parents often dismiss as phases but may point to something deeper. Includes practical next steps and a free Teen Signal Check used by over 3,500 parents.

Parents of struggling teens ask me the same 7 questions in private about exhaustion, isolation, "I'm fine," when to act, and fear of overreacting. These aren't signs of bad parenting. They're signs you're paying attention. If you're noticing changes in your teen and wondering if you should be worried, this is for you. Trust your instincts.

I can't promise your kid will be okay. No one can. But I can promise this: if you act on what you're seeing—if you pay attention, ask hard questions, get support before crisis—you'll be able to live with yourself regardless of what happens. The cost of overreacting is awkwardness. The cost of underreacting is something you'll never forgive yourself for. From Chris Coulter, founder of MentorWell.

Parents rarely get a clear warning when a teen is in pain. If your child texts that they don’t want to live, you need to know how to respond with calm, care, and urgency. This guide shows you how to listen, spot early signs, and support your teen before a crisis forms. Written by Chris Coulter, a parent and advocate.