Most companies say they support employees through personal difficulty. Employees learn quickly where that support ends. Chris Coulter on the gap between the values board and what actually happens when someone's performance drops for six months, why low EAP utilisation is not a communications problem, and the three questions worth putting to your own leadership team this week.

A stranger in a Toronto pub told me he hadn't spoken to his son in almost ten years, then admitted he couldn't remember what started it. Most managers are carrying a smaller version of the same thing: a person on the team they've quietly stopped talking to properly. Nobody would take it to HR. Nobody is going to raise it either, because the person with the power in the room is you.

Turnover, absence and engagement scores record decisions your people already finished making. The account of why sits with the people the numbers are about, and most of them will never volunteer it. Chris Coulter on why employees stay quiet, why the manager script never asks, and a way to test whether your leadership team knows its own organization.