My 85-Year-Old Dad Noticed Something I Hadn't.
Chris Coulter, founder of The MentorWell, writes from a cabin in the Panamanian rainforest after 15 hard years: losing his daughter Maddie, losing his mom this year, and helping his 85-year-old dad through grief. On a WhatsApp call, his dad told him he looked happy. A personal story about supporting a grieving parent, sons who now mentor kids through loss, and not having a plan for once.
I Had Maddie for Fourteen Years
Chris Coulter lost his daughter Maddie in 2015, when she was 14. For about ten years he carried one sentence: her life was taken from him. Anger and guilt came with it. What loosened it were the stories other kids told him about Maddie, including how she stood up for a swim teammate. A father’s honest account of anger, gratitude after losing a child, and why the anger still visits.
What Kept Me Here
After my daughter died, there were days I wasn't sure life was worth it. I once wrote a list of thirteen things that kept me going. I padded it. Eight of them held up: laughter, sunshine, moving every day, gratitude, a few people, a purpose, the future, and curiosity. None of them fix anything. On the worst days, one was enough. Then a question worth asking your own teen.
I Thought I Had ADHD. It Was Grief.
After losing his daughter, Chris Coulter watched his psychological profile become obsolete overnight. The decisive, driven results were gone. He blamed adult ADHD, his medication, early dementia, even mould in his coffee, before his doctor named the real cause. This post covers what grief does to memory, concentration and motivation, and why forgetting a passcode does not mean you are losing your mind.
I Don't Fear Talking About Maddie. I Fear People Forgetting Her
A father who lost his 14-year-old daughter to suicide explains what most people get wrong about grieving parents. Avoiding her name doesn't protect him. It erases her. This piece covers why bereaved parents want your stories, what to say to a grieving parent, what to avoid, and the one small act that matters more than any card: mention the person. Say the name. You will not remind us. We never forgot.
The hardest part of losing a child isn't what most people think.
The hardest part of losing a child is not the funeral. It is learning to live with the guilt, unanswered questions, and fear that your child will be forgotten. Chris Coulter shares what grief looks like ten years after losing his daughter Maddie and offers practical ways to support bereaved parents with compassion, presence, and remembrance.
What I Learned Sitting Beside a Parent Who Just Lost Their Child
I met grieving parents in a quiet Starbucks, three months after losing their child. They weren’t looking for answers, just someone who understood. I listened as they shared memories, fears, and questions I couldn’t answer. That night taught me grief needs presence, not solutions. It also shaped The MentorWell, where mentors show up, listen, and walk beside young people who feel lost.
You Won’t Find My Proudest Moment on LinkedIn, But It Saved Me
Someone asked me what my proudest accomplishment was. They expected a business win. I said: "Learning how to keep going after the day everything changed." After losing my daughter Maddie, the strength it takes to keep showing up, loving, and living — not just surviving — has become the thing I’m most proud of.