Many people fear mentioning a child who has died, especially at Christmas. From a parent’s lived experience, this piece explains why saying a child’s name doesn’t cause pain—it honours love. With simple, compassionate examples of what to say (and what silence can cost), this article offers gentle guidance for supporting grieving parents during the holidays.

I met grieving parents in a quiet Starbucks, three months after losing their child. They weren’t looking for answers, just someone who understood. I listened as they shared memories, fears, and questions I couldn’t answer. That night taught me grief needs presence, not solutions. It also shaped The MentorWell, where mentors show up, listen, and walk beside young people who feel lost.