We’ve Been Asking the Wrong Question: It’s Not ‘Why Did They Do It?’ It’s ‘Why Didn’t They Feel Safe Telling Us?’

When teens hide their struggles, it’s often because they don’t feel emotionally safe. Love isn’t enough if kids fear judgment, shame, or being “fixed.” This article challenges parents to ask the right questions, build emotional safety at home, and create the trust teens need to share openly before it’s too late.