Every parent instinct tells you to focus on your child. When something feels off with your teenager, you track their sleep, their mood, their friendships, their grades. You pay attention to every signal they give you.

Almost nobody is paying that same attention to you.

Here is what most parents do not want to hear: your capacity as a parent is not separate from your teenager's wellbeing. It is directly connected to it. When you are depleted — by grief, by stress, by isolation, by years of putting yourself last — your teenager feels it. Not because you are failing. Because they are wired to read you.

The oxygen mask instruction exists for a reason. You cannot help anyone else if you have already gone under.

This tool is not about whether you are a good parent. You already are, or you would not be here. It is about whether you have enough left to keep showing up the way your teenager needs — and whether there is something you have been quietly ignoring that is making that harder than it has to be.

Twelve questions. Four minutes. Honest answers only. No one sees your results but you.